The Queer Geer (A room for LGBT forum goers)

[Rev.Hammer]

A mistake made in haste is repented at leisure.

All great beauties of crafting take time.

Think of it this way. The time that it takes to find your great other will seem much much shorter than the  same amount of time that you will spend bound up with someone that you regret.

[Lilith-Nighthawk]

A mistake made in haste is repented at leisure.

All great beauties of crafting take time.

Think of it this way. The time that it takes to find your great other will seem much much shorter than the  same amount of time that you will spend bound up with someone that you regret.

You are of course right, but I still maintain the waiting is tedious and some times down right irritating. Not to say I'm not glad to wait for her. It's  just the waiting can get a person down some tmes. And to be honest I'd probly be lucky and unlucky enough to fall in love with a great indian girl if I ever got to visit some of my extended family in Mumbai.

[Prof Eumides Blakehurst]

am attracted to beautiful souls. I like the candy, not the wrapper it comes in

Does the wrapper have mysterious writings on it, or an exquisite black and red colouring ? 

Sorry it's taken a while to find you all - I've been rather sidetracked in the last couple of weeks at both work and home. I'll pop in a few times before the new year, but should be properly back after that.

It's looking like Canberra is the gay steampunk capital of the Antipodes. Yay!

Anyone for a G&T and some homemade Gentleman's Relish ? (Minds out of the gutter, I'm talking about the anchovial sort!  )

[CorneliaCarton]

I'm pan, but currently with someone of the opposite sex.

You may have noticed my sly jokes in naming my tea rooms (The Princess Seraphina and the Rrose Selavy), I don't think many others have noticed

Oooh!
A fellow pansexual!
And if I may explain (only if it hasn't been explained already) Pansexual means that you're not fussed about who you love. You don't have a preference, whereas if you are bisexual, you prefer one gender over the other, but would still court the gender that you don't prefer.
Oh, I do hope I am making sense.
And just a word. Captain Jack Harkness was described as Omnisexual, not pansexual. 

[CorneliaCarton]

Hi, sorry I haven't replied. Pansexual, for me, means I do not care what a person looks like, male, female, colour, dress sense etc. I am attracted to beautiful souls. I like the candy, not the wrapper it comes in

That is a very good way to describe it!
It's not the gender, it's the person.

[Utini420]

Wassup, y'all?
I tried on most of these labels (with the exception of gay, all the skirt chasing kinda ruled that one out; I'm so very much pickier about boys) along the way, and none of them really felt right, not really my style or something.  About the only description that really works, for me, is "Ethical Slut."  (Although I did rather like the term one lass coined for me, "adorable pervert.") 

Anyway, labels are for packages, not people.  And I know when I've found my people.   

I do really like that, "I like the candy, not the wrapper it comes in."   

Personally, I'm thankful as hell that I ran into the polyamory meme (not sure its really a movement, or a scene, or whatever) a few years ago.  It gave me a frame work for exploring these sorts of things without hurting others in the process.

[Utini420]

OK, I had to look up that Captain fellow.  Interesting comment:
"It felt right that the James Bond of the future would bed anyone."

It immediately made me think of a comment made by the writers for The Venture Brothers in relation to their Colonel Gentleman character, himself a thinly veiled James Bond archetype, with a twinky little "companion."  At first the relationship was only hinted at, but eventually became overt.  Anyway, on one of the commentary tracks they were talking about if the character was gay or not (the character doesn't think so, regardless of what his ex-wife says) and their comment was (done in a Sean Connery voice), "Of course I have sex with Chichi.  Just look at him -- that doesn't make me gay, it makes me smart!"

[Choreocrat]

It's looking like Canberra is the gay steampunk capital of the Antipodes. Yay!

Well that just sounds fun, doesn't it!

[Mina]

And if I may explain (only if it hasn't been explained already) Pansexual means that you're not fussed about who you love. You don't have a preference, whereas if you are bisexual, you prefer one gender over the other, but would still court the gender that you don't prefer.
Oh, I do hope I am making sense.

perfect sense, I completely understand, and agree, with that statement.
I myself am more in favor of the ladies than the gents, but each have admirable qualities

[Lilith-Nighthawk]

And if I may explain (only if it hasn't been explained already) Pansexual means that you're not fussed about who you love. You don't have a preference, whereas if you are bisexual, you prefer one gender over the other, but would still court the gender that you don't prefer.
Oh, I do hope I am making sense.

perfect sense, I completely understand, and agree, with that statement.
I myself am more in favor of the ladies than the gents, but each have admirable qualities

Oh god now i just have to list my qualities. Ok people. I cook, sew, clean even though i hate it, I'm a smarty pants book worm, I'm getting into perfume making, and i'm adorable to boot. Still doesn't help with the single status though.

[Dr. Wilson Montgomery]

One more joining in here, and while I do belong to the small group of gay men who would not be seen dead in pink, nor listen to disco,
I´ll gladly fight with both words and fists for my right to raise a rainbow flag.
Also, our worthless right-wing pseudo-fascist goverment actually did something good a few months ago, and put same-sex marriage
on the same legal ground as the traditional kind. Yay!

[Lilith-Nighthawk]

awesome Doctor!

[Utini420]

Go, Sweeden!

[Capt. Dirigible]

It's looking like Canberra is the gay steampunk capital of the Antipodes

There's a gag about 'getting steamy down-under' in there somewhere....

[Choreocrat]

It's looking like Canberra is the gay steampunk capital of the Antipodes

There's a gag about 'getting steamy down-under' in there somewhere....

o_0 Well, you know, if we get a quorum...

Dr Montgomery: I'm not a fan of pink. Discos and nightclubs are not my domain, nor soprano-and-sequin divas. Somehow steampunk-sequins is a phrase unlikely to occur frequently. I do, however, fit some stereotypes. I'm quite the fan of musical theatre, and mechanical things, I find, are often beyond my ken.

We've just got our civil union bill up (local only), so it's good for us. I'm hoping the rest of the country will catch up.

[quantumcat]

I've supported civil unions for decades.

My husband and I (before we ever heard of one another) decided we might choose one over a traditional marriage
even though those were already available to heterosexuals like ourselves.

The talk going on in the late sixties and early seventies characterized the civil union (as understood then,at least) as
more committed and adult than "shacking up" and less encumbered with the various trappings of either religious or civil marriage.

(That might change quickly once the civil unions gained universal approval.)

It separated the religious and secular covenants and offered the security of matrimony with a purer,pared-down,more serious and intimate bond than the conventional pair-bonds.

Not meaning to co-opt our LGBT  friends' solution but what they came up with out of a lack of alternatives has seemed to many straights a more real joining of two grown-ups who are ready to make their lives one and for all the right reasons.

I've had quite a few chats with some flag-thumping,Bible-waving sort to the effect that it's taken the members of the "alternate lifestyle" camp to remind society of why attatching social ties to romance  and/or  sharing a household is a good thing.

If those who could avoid the responsibilities associated with marriage choose to seek such recognition,maybe  making a public choice to spend the rest of one's life with the person one loves is a good option.

[Burr]

Aren't the civil unions in the US devoid of religion?

You could always live together for a while and become common law man/wife by virtue of time spent together in areas that have that allowance.

[Rev.Hammer]

Aye, marriage has ruined MANY a good friendship!

[neon_suntan]

*Stands quietly at the bar*

[Lilith-Nighthawk]

Aye, marriage has ruined MANY a good friendship!

It has also strengthened many, besides wanting equal marriage for me is about the right to be just as misserable or in love as straight people and be legally reconized.

[quantumcat]

Common law marriages don't get to register for goodies and have showers and shivarees,though,do they?

The rituals do lend a certain sense of public committment and conscious intent-plus there is the delightful cheese factor
one may include to the degree one enjoys the trite and ulcer-inducing.   

Why should anyone be able to enjoy life with the right partner,legal perks and eschew the tortures now reserved for heterosexual adults desirous of a proper,society-sanctioned social contract?

[Lilith-Nighthawk]

Common law marriages don't get to register for goodies and have showers and shivarees,though,do they?

The rituals do lend a certain sense of public committment and conscious intent-plus there is the delightful cheese factor
one may include to the degree one enjoys the trite and ulcer-inducing.   

Why should anyone be able to enjoy life with the right partner,legal perks and eschew the tortures now reserved for heterosexual adults desirous of a proper,society-sanctioned social contract?

Thats what I was saying. I personally want everything a straight couple can have, the good and the bad. Is it really to much to ask that my country catches up with my state(massachusetts) and some other countries in the world? Don't get me started on adding transgender people to nation wide hate laws. And hopefully not too much in the political bent. But how is it people can get a medical reimbursment for viagra, but a transgender persons treatment is cosmetic in nature and not generally covered under most helath plans. Discrimination much.  I call men getting something to get their parts up a cosmetic thing. A trans person is likely to self mutilate or commit suicide if they dont have the abillity to at least start transitioning. And let me tell you the process is crazy expensive.

[Choreocrat]

*orders absinthe*

*drinks*

[Lilith-Nighthawk]

*sits at the bar* gin and tonic please

[Prof Eumides Blakehurst]

It's looking like Canberra is the gay steampunk capital of the Antipodes

There's a gag about 'getting steamy down-under' in there somewhere....

o_0 Well, you know, if we get a quorum...

Which I think we have; only three Antipodeans here at the moment, so with a whole two of us in Cantberra, we win! 


And no, I can't stand pink or sequins either. But mechanical or high voltage machinery hold no fears for me, nor the workings of my bike.

*Saunters to the bar...*

Sazerac, if I may ?